Too afraid to ask for hot pink.

Meeting clients is one of the most interesting, and sometimes frustrating parts of my job. Most clients come in knowing what they do and don’t want. Others though either have no real idea or they are afraid to ask.

The ones that are unsure are usually new and fairly easy to deal with. They are timid because they haven’t had a lot of experience and are looking for an introduction. These types are usually sure of what they don’t want, and you can just run through options and kind of test the waters.

The clients that are most frustrating just clam up and can’t tell you what they want. I understand that some people get a bit nervous about asking for things, but really. We hear so many requests that your little fetish or fantasy is not going to shock us.

Say for example a client meets four ladies. The first one will go in and the client may say he’s looking for a ‘Bondage and Tease’ session. The second ladies will come back saying he mentioned cross-dressing. He tells the third lady that he wants body worship. The fourth finds out that he also wants anal. So not only has the session become more detailed but the price has also risen. The second lady may not do body worship so it was a waste of her time meeting him, which she would have known if he had have said everything to the first one.

Even worse are the clients that don’t say anything at all. For example yesterday I was first to meet a client and he said to me he wanted bondage and tease. I asked if there was anything else and he said, “You know, whatever”. I straight away got the shits because how do I know what that means. I kept calm, but I knew that I wasn’t going to get much out of him. I said, “Is there anything that definitely has to be in the session?” He then said again “You know”. FUCK. So I left it at that and let him meet the next lady. The problem is you know it’s going to be a tough session if they can’t tell you what they want, because you don’t know what to try and what may freak them out. After the second lady came out he had mentioned to her that he wanted the Mistress to have white panties on. If that was so important why didn’t he tell me in the first place?

I got to thinking about how these men are doing themselves a great disservice by not explaining what they want. We can’t read minds, and they will get a much better session if they know, and can ask for, the type of session they desire.

Compared to ordering any other service or product it’s just crazy. You don’t go to a cafe for example and say you want bacon and eggs. Then when it arrives you get angry because they didn’t give you sausage as well. Imagine going to buy a car and expecting the dealer to know exactly what you are looking for, being too afraid to say you want the car in hot pink, or that you want auto and not manual.

Clients are paying good money for their session; they shouldn’t be afraid to ask for exactly what they want.